Number One Requested Gift

There is nothing more powerful than to receive a gift for absolutely no reason at all according to all the woman we have surveyed. The gift does not have to be expensive or elaborate. Someone being thoughtful enough to give you something without having Hallmark or the calendar to tell him to do it is worth more than his weight in gold. These types of gifts require you to be thinking about your mate without being reminded to do so, which isn't always easy, but the results will be worth it.

This gift can be anything, anytime, anywhere. The ONLY limitation is that it can't be done on a specific holiday. You get to be completely creative and fun loving and reap 1000 times the benefits, simply because you thought to do it without being reminded by the media.

"One of the best memories I have was when my husband and I were dating and he pulled the car off to the side of the road, jumped out and picked a handful of wildflowers. He jumped back in the car and said "I just wanted to let you know that I love you." Those flowers meant more to me than $1000 worth of long stemmed roses. The fact that he did it on a whim because he loved me meant so much more than knowing that the media reminded him of a holiday. I felt cherished, and I couldn't wait to tell all my friends what he did." Christie M. (married 9 years)

"My husband once replaced my entire bra/panty wardrobe, just because. He said he wanted me to have a brand new set so that I would feel as beautiful under my clothes as he saw me all the time. He didn't wait until a holiday to let me know he loved me." Laura J. (married 2 years)

"My husband bought me flowering plants for my front porch for no reason. He said he just wanted to make me smile. It meant more than a million dollars. It meant he was listening to me and acting on what he heard." Kristin V. (married 3 years)

"Gifts don't have to be monetary. It means the world to me when my husband offers to do the dishes for me so that I can just sit and relax. That is the best gift he could give me, especially because he is doing it just because he loves me." Jean P. (married 28 years)

"One time, I packed a bag for my husband and I and when he got home from work, I simply said, let's go. He had no idea where we were going or what we were doing. I had packed a picnic dinner and booked a hotel room for the night. We left our children (in college at the time) and our responsibilities behind and just escaped for the night. It was wonderful, and probably one of the most remembered gifts I ever gave him." Brenda Pummel (married 35 years)

Be spontaneous

This requires being a little unconventional. Catching her off guard increases the impact of the gift. Give her something because it's a beautiful Thursday morning, or because she smells good, or because she makes you laugh, rather than giving her something because it's February 14th. The fact that the calendar doesn't say you should be giving a gift will tell her that you are thinking about her all the time.

If it pains you to give a gift for absolutely NO reason, then look for a funny holiday and link the gift to it. Click here for some "fun" holidays to link with your gift giving.

Be thoughtful

Know her likes, and focus on them. Below is a list of potentially thoughtful yet spontaneous gifts.

Buy her a bouquet of her favorite flowers.
Stop the car and pick her some wildflowers.
Pick up her favorite candy before you go to the movies.
Sneak out and get her a bagel or doughnuts before she wakes up.
Give her the bracelet she has been admiring on a Thursday instead of waiting until Christmas or her birthday.
Buy her a sexy nightie (this gift will benefit both of you)
Make her a cake (or cookies or dinner)
Make her a CD of her favorite songs (or put them on her iPod)
Create a calendar and fill in an explanation of her gift each day
List of 20 things I love about you
A sample of her favorite candy even though you're not going to the movies
Chocolate covered strawberries
A piece of jewelry
Lingerie
A coupon for a free massage
Homemade gifts (cards, books, picture frames, jewelry boxes)
A "free pass" to take a bubble bath while you care of the children, house, etc.
A night out (her choice, even if she wants to see a sappy chic flick)
Dinner made and cleaned up by you (ordering in is ok too)
Gift certificates (nails, hair, clothes, etc.)
A list of your favorite memories together
Pictures of your past (dig out the old pics and make a collage or frame a few)
A picture frame with a note saying you want to fill it with a new memory.
Champagne and candlelight
A coupon to do the laundry
Emptying the dishwasher
Loading the dishwasher
A book by her favorite author (with sweet notes handwritten on the pages)
A new pair of sexy shoes
A night of rented movies and popcorn at home (kid free if it applies)
A handmade card
Couples dance lessons followed by a night out on the town
Breakfast in bed
Dinner in bed :)

Listen, then act

Listen to what she says. It's amazing how many clues she is likely dropping. If she says, "I really need to get a new bra." then go and get her one (or get a gift certificate if you are at a loss for which type to purchase) If she says she needs to wash her car, go wash it. If she groans when she does the laundry, do it before she has a chance to. To a woman, these are wonderfully unsolicited gifts. (that will likely result in strong appreciation)

Women frequently have a hard time asking for what they want, but they will drop not so subtle hints. If you are listening, you will know exactly what to get her and it's a win win because not only will she see you as thoughtful, but she will also know that you are hearing her.

Add a card or note

Whether it is a sticky note or a store bought card, tell her what you love about her in your own words. Tell her that the gift is because you think of her all the time, or that she deserves to be loved regardless of the date. Hearing those sentiments in written form tells her two things.
1. You really do think about her.
2. You cared enough to put your thoughts in writing so she could enjoy them again and again.

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